Today hasn't been too bad. Even with the news of my brother's trial being pushed back to October, (fucking hate the law!!!!) its still been pretty good. During a rousing round of "Facebook Shuffle", I came across 2 friend's statuses that interested me a bit more than others. The first one asked...
"Ladies, do you feel that chivalry is dead?"
Of course, me being the person I am, waited to see what people said. There were tons of, "Yeah, these niggas aint SHIT!", "Thats why I do shit for myself!", and some of those "Its so hard to find men like that anymore!". Lets not forget the "I think chivalry only exists in older men, which is why I DON'T date younger guys!".
Now, after about 5 mins, I made my remark.
Personally, I feel that chivalry is dying, and...
WOMEN are KILLING IT!
Thats right! I said it! You bitches can call me a traitor all you want, but you know its true! The moment Destiny's Child came out with that stupid ass "Independent Women" song, you bitches fell into that gimmick, adopted the song as your theme, turned the shit around, and went completely BONKERS!
Its nice to be independent. I think its a beautiful thing, being an independent woman myself. HOWEVER, LET THE MEN BE MEN! If he wants to treat you to dinner, STOP PICKING UP THE TAB! Let him pull out your chair! Let him shower you with gifts! Let him open the car door for you! Men like to feel like they are needed in some shape, form, or fashion, so stop tryna be big shit! You know you dont know how to fix a fucking car! Stop acting like you dont NEED a man to help you with some things! Be honest, if GOD didn't want Adam to have someone to take care of and protect, he would have left the man his damn rib and let him play with a fucking chimpanzee! Chivalry can be saved. It can. Women just need to let go. Some of these women need to stop USING men too! You heauxs are making it hard for nice women! Most men, (like most women) believe that all women are the same, when thats FAR from the truth. Theres only 3 types.
USERS. HEAUXS. and REAL WOMEN!
Life aint a real life Player's Club. You dont have to USE WHAT YOU GOT to get what you WANT. You don't have to PLAY men to get what you want. Shit's not cute at all.
Ladies, you are not invincible. You cant do everything. And if there is a man thats willing to help you...LET HIM! Stop busting your pussy open like 7-11, thinking that its gonna get you farther ahead. You'll only be left with cum stained sheets, low self esteem, and a chocha with no elasticity!
P.S. Bitchassness, comes in ANY age. You can be 22 & chivalrous, but 52 & a asshole, so dont base your dating, on something like that. Base it on how much you LIKE that person! You never know. You may find a 27 year old, with a heart of gold, and the maturity of a 54 Pinot Grigio! =]
10 mins passed before I wound up looking at my favorite Messican's (insider..teehee ^_^) status. She talked about a club that didn't want to let plus size patrons in, how dumb it was for sales, how it was against the law, and how facially challenged skinty women constantly speak on the good life, yet us beautiful big women can lose weight, and still be beautiful, and they'd look like the HEEL of a person's crusty ass foot. Of course I giggled, said what I said, and went on. But one person's comment about "Obesity being unhealthy" and "get your fat ass up and exercise like the Queen of Sheba you are", made me think about some things.
Nobody said being fat was healthy, because we all know what being overweight can do to your body and heart. However, if a person happens to FEEL comfortable the way they are, and celebrates their body, I think others have NO right to speak on/or ridicule them. It takes major balls, gull, and self appreciation to be comfortable with who you are. I was very self conscious for a long time, and there are some days that I still am. But I do know that I have to accept me for me FIRST, before I can make a change on me. When you decide to turn your life around, you should do it for you...NEVER for anyone else's benefit. Think about you and your self worth before ANYONE else's opinions of you. YOU MATTER! They dont. Simple.
I got exhausted, so I just logged off for , but I just had to share these thoughts with you guys. So ladies and gents, do YOU think chivalry is dead? How do you feel about dating older guys? Was the club wrong for not letting big girls in? Do any of you have problems with your self esteem?
Give me your thoughts below, cause you know I just LOVE to hear from ya!
Much love as always!
-Joni Cee: Miss Loving HERSELF! <3